Taxes and Claims

Returning the tax return…

So, did you know, tax returns will bounce back if your kids come up on someone else’s return?  Guess you’ll never learn weird stuff like that until you go through a divorce.  So, you learn and pay $90 for an amendment so the other person’s file doesn’t show up illegal.  Funny thing is, I’ve always avoided taxes.  Kind of think of them as inevitable but not something to think about and so I always gladly deferred that to my more number oriented husband.  Now I know, don’t avoid things.  Evil, yeah.  Avoid all sorts of that.  But, when it comes to your taxes or fears, or truths you’re afraid may actually wind up true that you hope could never be…just face them.  So, when I filed back in April and was so proud that I could actually figure it all out and rejoiced with all the kids around me bringing me water and explaining to each other that mommy was still doing the taxes and she only had fifteen minutes left, it was a victory.  And, even though that victory was short lived because the next morning, I was notified that it was kicked back, I still felt quite happy for some reason.  And, I figured it out.  Facing a fear brings victory.  And, the victory can’t be taken away.  So, when I got an answer at a brief, monitored visitation, after repeat attempts through silent lawyers and ex, that indeed my husband ‘filed jointly,’ I wondered what that meant.  Turns out, he didn’t file jointly, just married but separate and head of the household.  Then, in court yesterday,  I asked the lawyer if the filed return could then be applied to ordered attorney fees.  He smiled and said it would all go to the bankruptcy court.  Bankruptcy is threatened every month in court.  Guess that’s standard procedure too.  Oh well, you learn.  File.  And, file early.  So, H& R Block will amend with a signature (as indicated by their conversation with other filer on the phone) and we wait upon that signature. Life goes on.  Whether anything comes of a bit of taxes left over, since he already spent the initial filing, will be a nice non-mortgage late fee payment and I hope that is the case.  But, either way, things are clearer and it’s better to know what you’re facing then to stay in a fog of hopeful thinking.  What’s true is true.  Actions reveal motives.  Taxes come and go and many claims are made but it’s what’s left over that counts.